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When most parents think of the teenage years and the difficulties they present, a good number of them see visions of tantrums, rages, out-of-control hormones, misunderstood feelings and any number of other scenarios. Many parents wonder if it’s possible to maintain a good relationship with their teens, while maintaining discipline. As most of us know, this is a balancing act at best.
Here are a few tips that can help you when you need to discipline your teenager, without damaging your parental relationship.
Be consistent. This is very important at any age, when dealing with your children, but is especially important during the teenage years. Your teenager will feel high levels of frustration if a certain behavior is acceptable on one day, but not the next. Establish rules with consequences. This type of action will provide your teen with direction, as well as a feeling of security.
Make sure you listen to what your teen is saying. This may be difficult for some parents; however, if your teen feels as if his opinions are not valued they may act out in frustration. Even if you may disagree with what is being said, you must at least take the time to listen as he is expressing himself.
Don’t punish in anger. Many parents make the mistake of waiting until they are pushed beyond the breaking point before using disciplinary tactics. This type of action lets the teen to act out or misbehave before any consequence or punishment is meted out. Don’t lose your patience and act out abusively or in anger.